The Black Ribbon – A Symbol of Your Loss

The Black Ribbon is intended to be a modern death symbol, a modern version of the "black arm band" which was commonly worn in British based cultures. The Black Ribbon is supported by a grief group program and related materials that are available to professionals who are providing grief and loss support.

In light of this week's events, I would like to offer my sincere condolences to all of those affected by the Coronavirus and the announcements from the White House, September 9, concerning the President’s early knowledge of the Coronavirus. The USA as a country is in a state of mourning for this terrible situation. 

Revelations now that many of the COVID-19 deaths could have been avoided add a new dimension to the pain felt by so many. I think of the families and friends of those who died needlessly, denied an opportunity to say goodbye to dying loved ones except by facetime, the many laid to rest without ritual or remembrance service, the first responders – EMT, Fire, Police, Counsellors, Crisis Service Counsellors, Health Care Workers, and Funeral Personnel who attended to offer assistance or comfort or to honor the dead, and the many who have lost friends, jobs, businesses, homes, and other treasured things; all of us who have been affected. 

I think, also, of those who have suffered strokes and heart attacks, and organ failures and other ailments because they contracted the virus. I pray for their speedy and full recovery.  

I am a Crisis Management Services Counsellor and I personally have been affected by the revelations coming from the Woodward recordings of the President of the United States. My feelings of grief and loss, anger, and deep sadness for the tens of thousands of people who have died from the virus are all but overwhelming. Here in Canada, I have attended groups of people who have lost loved ones, friends, and clients. The intensity and complexity of their feelings of loss are unfathomable.  

If you are feeling overwhelmed by this tragedy, please seek the support of a professional in your area. Talk to others or make use of the Support Lines, your business Employee Assistance Programs, community grief groups, or other supports available through your church or mosque. 

I am so sorry for your loss.

Please be safe and well, 

Len McEwen


GriefWords is a web-based, comprehensive library of articles and book excerpts about grief for bereaved families and bereavement caregivers.

The Griefwords Library was created by the Center for Loss & Life Transition. Founded in 1983 by Dr. Alan Wolfelt, the center helps mourners, by walking with them in their unique life journeys, and professional/lay caregivers, by serving as an educational resource and professional forum.

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